What Google responds to a teenager when asked about sex
If anything defines the generation known as Z (or centennial) it is its digital aspect. They were born with a smartphone and a tablet under their arms and do not know such rudimentary means of communication as calling the home landline phone or making a loss to their cell phone as a greeting. In addition, and unlike millennials (editor's note: stop confusing them), they did not have to embrace social networks, but have been part of their lives from the beginning. Thus, as a backdrop that surrounds their lives and almost like another teaching teacher, Google: the place next to YouTube (those born between 1994 and 2009 tend to search directly on the video site) where to ask all their questions, including those related to sexuality.
But since I am not fifteen years old and my sexual education was given to me by Lorena Berdún when I listened to the mythical 'In your house or in mine' of The Top 40, I have decided to access Google with the incognito mode to know what will answer me your artificial intelligence when I ask you things like: "What is a bukkake?", "How long does it take in bed?" or "All my friends have lost their virginity except me, what should I do?".
"Can I get pregnant with fellatio?"
If you follow series like ‘Elite ’, in which its protagonists seem to live alone in mansions, make threesomes and have paraphilias despite being sixteen years old, you will think that today's teenagers, more than asking about sex, should give talks as experts. If, on the other hand, you enjoy ‘Sex education’, another Netflix production with a more traditional approach, you will see that they are as outgoing as they are uninformed. That is, the normal thing when you are old enough to consider one of your tracksuits as the most elegant.
Transferring the first of a series of typical questions about sex that we have asked Google, we wanted to check if the if you highlights some search following the parameters that it collects in its Help Center: "The highlighted fragments are shown when our systems determine that this format will help users to find what they are looking for more easily, by being able to read the page description and click on the link to access it. They are especially useful for users of mobile devices or those who do voice searches. "
As indicated in their conditions, "automated systems examine the results and determine whether it would be useful to highlight any." And in the case of this question about fellatio and pregnancies, they have seen fit to find a canonical and correct answer.
"You cannot get pregnant if you have oral sex. For a pregnancy to happen, the semen has to be in the vagina, which is close to the uterus. The mouth is not connected to the vagina, so there is no way for them to sperm reaching an egg. So no, swallowing semen does not lead to pregnancy. "
Without leaving the first page (and we will do so with the rest of the searches), in general the first entries respond to vestiges of the old Internet (forums), news from digital media or blogs. Information is almost always correct on page 1 but it can be peppered with stories like the following:
“Before being stabbed twice in the abdomen, the girl had had oral sex with her boyfriend and ingested the seminal fluids, but she had not eaten food for hours, so her stomach was empty of food and acids. One of the wounds pierced her stomach allowing her boyfriend's fluids to drain out of his gastrointestinal system and into his internal reproductive organs. At that time I was ovulating and that was how the conception came about. "
More results appeared on the first page of Google (as can be seen at the bottom of the image).
"What is petting?"
The sexual practice known as petting, one of the entry points to sexuality on the part of the youngest, yields as a first result a relevant translation (in the upper right) by Google (and aptly named "magreo") and featured videos as first click options.
From there, the site positions a series of posts published by media related to the playful clickbait. Of course, thanks to this we already know the three types of degree that petting handles.
"Grade III: in this case, sexual caresses are carried out under clothing. The range is very wide, so that both parties can reach under their clothes to caress their genitals while being fully naked. Grade III also encompasses oral sex and masturbation. When practicing oral sex, it is important to take the necessary precautionary measures to avoid sexually transmitted diseases ”.
"How do I know if I have had an orgasm?"
If we stick only to the female gender, one of the first questions that a teenager will ask will be related to the climax (or not). If we ignore the fact that perhaps it is going to be a situation / problem that can last throughout his life, in the case of a girl of 15 or 16 years old, stillness is multiplied by inexperience. At this point, we searched through Google to find out which are the main entries. What is striking first, by default, is the lack of outstanding response. And second, if several YouTube videos emerge on the first page.
Somewhat lower but still on the first page of searches, it captures our attention how the Sex Place TV channel addresses the issue in first person through your youtuber with direct messages: “We have to learn to say to, you are not doing well. If we don't do it, the only thing we are going to do is create a lineage of boys who think they are doing well ”.
"How long do I have to last fucking?"
A recurring question that sometimes does not understand age and that is a kind of daily Trending Topic in the brain of a teenager. If we relate the speech of the previous youtuber with this question, what we are going to find is a group of fifteen-year-olds boasting among themselves (and why not say it, ghostly) about whether they have lasted two hours or the entire first season of 'Narcos'. while they did it. A feedback that the most timid and insecure will cost more than a Google search.
And what we find is an immense string of mainstream media addressing the subject in recently published articles.And among the first searches we found a text by Vice, one of the most representative online pages among the millennial public that is already adapting to generational change to also satisfy the interests of the Z. An appetizing click for a teenager who is wondering That, not only for being Vice, but because they approach it from an approach that will excite the fifteen year old: porn. Industry players discovering their techniques to slow down orgasm and confused teens taking notes on it.
"Do I have it small? How Much Should I Measure? ”
Another of the most widespread insecurities among young people when it comes to starting sexual practices is the issue of size. Again, we find a more or less numerous group of pubescent people talking about their more or less distorted experiences and wanting to look like Nacho Vidal.
Google acts and offers us several posts in powerful media, the umpteenth appearance of Vice and some pages related to health. And in all of them, the standard measurement that has martyred (or not) millions of men: more than 14 centimeters.
"My boyfriend wants us to have sex but I still don't feel ready, what should I do?"
Adolescents today are in a special situation from which they cannot escape: on the one hand, they belong to the first digital generation, the one that has a click of a world of pornographic videos where the objectification of women is at hand. the order of the day. And on the other hand, it is the generation that at an earlier age has been informed about feminism and has been able to embrace it before.
Just where the two points conceptualized in the upper paragraph converge we find minors about to have their first sexual relations. A carnal act but one that will be influenced by education, values, opinions, family or friends. Converted into an everyday scene, we will observe a 16-year-old boy fed by the macho voices of his colleagues and a girl of the same age who does not feel prepared and, on the contrary, overwhelmed or pressured. That's the teenager who will Google the big question. Fortunately, the results that the search engine gives us tend to entries related to psychology that are not very commercial and do offer a series of tips.
And what do professionals think about this kind of "education" provided by Google?
If we omit the number of words in Google to end up limiting them to the concept of sex, what a teenager will find is porn. Pornhub, Youporn, Xvideos and dozens of pages with explicit videos on all kinds of practices. After our search exercise using some of the most recurring questions, we contacted several experts on the subject: psychologists specialized in sexual therapy from different generations and years of experience to confirm whether these are the questions they receive. But as with the sex itself and its expectations, in the end what happened was the creation of a delayed debate on the state of sex education among the youngest.
Among the experts consulted is María Esclapez (psychologist, clinical sexologist specialized in positive sexuality, couples therapist and creator of a journal of a sexologist). Asked about the influence of the internet in current sex education and, above all, about its influence, the author of the book Sex Sexual Intelligence ’is clear:
Photo: María Esclapez - Diary of a sexologist
“The little sexual education that adolescents have is through the internet. And my job is precisely that they don't resort to it. But is very difficult. If you have been under a taboo-based null education all your life, you are going to investigate what so little has been said to you. And for this you turn to Saint Google. And for a teenager this is going to serve to create a model of stereotypical sexuality ”.
Taboo is a word repeated by Lidia G. Asensi, a health psychologist at the Cepsim center and an EMDR therapist. The generalized premise implanted by adults, converges into a kind of youthful shame that feeds fear and trauma even without having even begun to have sex: “The reason is because it generates a great feeling of shame, making it a taboo subject to deal with adults. That they do not have prior knowledge or that they do not have a reference adult with whom to deal with any doubts that may arise, can generate negative consequences regarding the idea and concept that young people can form in relation to sex ”.
Lidia Asensi shares the opinion that in the end it is Google who supplies the figure of the mentor. A place of knowledge that we should consider as complementary but that seems to become the only one: "This online search can be somewhat" dangerous "because on the Internet much of the information we find is not real or helps to further confirm the expectations and myths of young people".
With 37 years of experience in the field of psychology, and before moving to the private sphere, Joan Vílchez Cambronero was working at the Hospital Peset in Valencia and gave talks at institutes. We are talking about the years 1985 to 1992, which transports us directly to another generation whose first sexual impulses went to the rhythm of the pages of certain erotic magazines and even greater educational ignorance. This broad spectrum of years has made him an exceptional witness to certain changes whose backdrop has been the emergence of the internet and its pervasive nature.
One of those changes has to do with insecurity. As Joan Vílchez tells us, insecurity seems to be more widespread among boys than girls: "Boys are increasingly concerned about the issue of erection. When they are with a girl that they like and want, they notice that they are blocked. They are afraid of looking bad, it is usually someone from their own group of friends and they end up avoiding sex ”.
Vílchez blames it on "The quick and easy exposure to the porn they consume through the internet" And that covers the other great point of self-esteem among men and that they ask the most both on Google and in the talks and therapies that professionals offer: “Young people are more concerned with the size of their member than with the relationship itself and the act. Lack of communication and time between couples that makes them not enjoy the process ”.
Pasqual Canet Martínez worked with young people from 14 to 16 years old and also with members of the Z generation. Once again, he appeals that the introduction that these adolescents have with sex occurs through pornography. Expectations and knowledge that will not be real once they become tangible: “It is not that it is good or bad, it is that they neither select it nor know how to contextualize it. And worse, sometimes it is the only thing because sex education is not standardized ”.
“Young people of these ages are interested in morbid curiosity. Not knowing how to select, they learn what they see as normal. They lack a critical capacity that they do establish when they see, for example, a western movie and would know that it is fiction. Another big problem is that condoms do not use condoms and it is an image they stay with. And another issue in this regard is that it is usually aimed at a middle-aged man in which the woman is always objectified.
Finally, and leaving porn and the internet to move offline, contraceptive methods and unwanted pregnant women are two recurring meeting points among the consultations psychologists receive. Whether in therapies such as talks or consultations of a more anonymous nature, such as those received by María Esclapez, unsafe sexual practices are the order of the day:
"They are aware that they have not taken measures and emails have happened to me many times where the issue is urgent. And the urgency was that they had had unprotected relationships and now they were in doubt or directly feeling lost. Adolescents are impulsive and if you link it to alcohol or drug use, this increases. We have to work with it but not through fear. "